I am two weeks away from my first anniversary of being married to my wonderful wife. As much as I am not a fan of lists, this is the best way to fit this all in one blog. Here is what I have learned in a year (in no particular order):
- Happy wife does mean happy life: If you love and care for someone enough, you want them to be happy. Sometimes that means going out with her friends, letting her pick the movie, cleaning up without being reminded, cooking her favorite meal, etc… It isn’t a sacrifice making her happy in turn makes you happy.
- I am the one who steals the covers: I thought it was her, but it isn’t. She’s taking back what is rightfully hers.
- If you don’t feel like cooking, don’t critique the way she’s doing it. That is a fast track to an empty belly. Don’t like how she chops veggies? You have two options, step in and do them yourself or shut the hell up. Complaining only leads to a fight and no food in the belly.
- She will not love everything you do. I will not watch the Bachelor, she doesn’t like wrestling. She hates apples, I hate bananas. She thinks root beer is disgusting, I don’t like sweet tea. Who cares. Who wants to spend the rest of their lives with themselves?
- Even though you won’t like the same things, it’s fun to try liking what she does. Not only am I addicted to Big Brother now, because of her, but I have had a pedicure that felt amazing. I also learned how keeping the house clean as you go makes it easier when it is time to deep clean things. She has learned to try any kind of food at least once with me and we have found some pretty amazing things with that.
- Every married couple should have one morning person and one person who is not.
- Marriage is having someone to support you in the hard times.
- Every marriage is different. There is no need to try and compare yourselves to someone else’s story, or what they have, or how they do things. Just be yourself in your own relationship.
- Compromise means pooping with the door closed.
- Getting home to your wife is more important than happy hour with work friends.
- Be goofy and laugh often.
- Say “I love you” everyday when you leave in the morning and before you go to bed everyday.
- Rainy days stuck inside aren’t near as bad when you have someone to watch movies and play Yahtzee.
- Going to new places is always better than the same ol’ same ol’.
- I suck at rock paper scissors. I used to be good, I swear.
- Hearing “I love you” everyday means more to me than I ever thought.
Of course this list could go longer. But we can save that for another time.
“I urge you to please notice when you are happy and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, “If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is” -Kurt Vonnegut